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What We’ve Learned in Two Years of Marriage

August 20, 2018

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It’s hard to believe I’m already reflecting on what we’ve learned in two years of marriage. And believe me, it’s definitely been more than two things, but for the sake of not writing a novel, let’s keep it at two 😉 By no means are we experts by any stretch of the imagination, and I’m sure I’ll look back at this and laugh one day.

In all honesty,  I’m over here trying to figure out how on earth two years passed so quickly, when it really feels like it was just yesterday that we were celebrating with endless champagne, margaritas, glorious sunshine and delish mexican food with our nearest and dearest!

What’s even more surprising, is how quickly time has passed, while simultaneously realizing how much has changed in such a short amount of time! 

I can remember our wedding day so very vividly, and in fact today Zach and I woke up and watched our wedding video in bed to reminisce a bit. Coffee in hand, no makeup on, morning breath, messy hair and all in our teeny little Barcelona apartment. Maybe a bit less glamorous than two years ago, but….

Gahh, I really feel my heart may actually burst at any moment.

To say the day was incredible would be the understatement of my life. But it was so much more than a day, because it was the start of the next chapter of life for us.

A chapter that two years ago, was just a distant dream for us. 

But life’s funny that way isn’t it?

Two years ago, we were saying our vows to one another, and promised to always support one another’s dreams, hopes, and ambitions.

And today? Today just so happened to be Zach’s first day of school here in Barcelona, the start of a chapter we had dreamt about for so long. I’m a big believer in the mantra that everything comes full circle, and it seems oddly fitting that today of all days an entire new chapter officially starts. 

My heart is just overflowing with gratitude these days, and I’m trying to cherish every single moment about it. 

Okay, without further adieu here are the things that we’ve learned from, and about, one another over the past two years (P.S. — neither of us saw these until this went live!)

Pssst….if you’re interested in how we pulled of a DIY wedding that landed in a magazine, I’m sharing all the details at the end of this post! Anddd photos from the day, because I obviously can’t help but reminisce. And also because that guy next to me is just too damn cute. 

What She’s Learned

What I’ve Learned About Zach: I’ve always known this about Zach, but in the past two years it’s really come to light even more-so. Zach is absolutely fearless as he pursues his dreams with a sense of passion and drive I haven’t ever witnessed before. Even more than that, he doesn’t let road blocks stand in the way of him achieving those dreams. If he sets his mind to something, he will make it happen. He has a fire burning inside of him to succeed, and it brings me so much joy to see him conquer his goals. It’s a trait of his I truly admire. Not only that, but he takes that drive and applies it in the real world. He’s one of the most charismatic people I’ve ever met (clearly, I fell for that charm!) and lemme tell ya, this guy knows how to work a room. I have no doubt in my mind that at some point in his future, he’ll be the President/CEO/Head Hancho delivering motivational speeches to kids who are just as ambitious as he is. I’m so damn proud to be his wife and watch his passion lead him through life. Oh, I’ve also learned he’s a pretty fabulous cook, and likes to boss me around in the kitchen. He still has a lot to learn about wine, though 😉 

What I’ve Learned from Zach: I will say that Zach has taught me many things over the years (and attempted to teach me many things, though I doubt I’ll ever be able to swing a golf club properly) One of the biggest things I’ve learned from Zach is the ability to truly be in the moment and relax. That life is meant to be enjoyed, right now. He’s really the perfect person for me in that regard, and has taught me (which is no small feat, mind you) to not sweat the small stuff, and embrace this moment. To stop worrying about things that are outside of my control, and to be present. I don’t think there are enough words to truly express my gratitude to him in this particular arena. I am a chronic worrier, and he has essentially become my chill-pill. Zach has an ease about him that is something to behold. To find someone who helps me truly enjoy this beautiful life of ours, I can’t think of anything better. Life’s to short not to laugh at yourself. Find someone who’s just as willing to laugh with you (and..at you 😉 )

What He’s Learned

What I’ve Learned about Steph: More times than I could possibly count, I have heard Stephanie utter the words: “work for myself,” “be independent,” and “travel the world.” Over the last year I witnessed Stephanie take a leap into the unknown. What I’ve learned about Stephanie: Dreams aren’t squat if they exist only in your head. I always knew she had reservoirs of courage, but this was different. In the span of a few short months she quit her job, set off into the world and began working for herself. It’s one thing to dream that, another to make it happen. It takes a different kind of courage to do what she did; it requires confidence, focus and hard work. Observing her audacity in taking a risk to follow her dreams has been a joy to witness. I can’t wait to see how the next year unfolds for Stephanie. I anticipate she will never have to step foot into an office again, unless it’s her own. 

What I’ve Learned from Steph: Stephanie is one the hardest workers I know. Take her five years in the Washington Wine Industry, for example; when she announced she was leaving most in her office ended up in tears. Of course it has everything to do with how she positively affects people, yet it also has everything to do with how she went the extra mile. One of her bosses has told me numerous times that she is the best worker he has ever had the pleasure of working with. What’s more, and this is where the last year for me has been a learning lesson, it’s that after a long day at work Stephanie would come home and get to work on her own business! If I have learned anything FROM Stephanie, it is that to achieve your dreams you have to put in the long and arduous hours. It’s not enough to simply work smart; you have to work hard. I couldn’t respect that attribute of hers more, and I can’t wait to see what the future holds in store.

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