What’s that saying about time flying when you’re having a good time? It seems like it’s been a whirlwind of a year since Zach & I said I Do during what ended up being a dream come true of a day (you can read more about how we DIY’ed that here, and everything you need to know to get ready on your wedding day here). Technically it’s been a year and a day, and this post is a day late. But I’m allowing myself a bit of grace (as you’ll find below is quite important) due to crazy travel schedules, and I’m finally taking a moment to reflect back on that wonderful day.
I can easily put myself back into the exact feeling I had when I woke up on the morning of our wedding, and continually have the biggest smile on my face when I think back to how indescribably wonderful it was to be surrounded by all of our loved ones all day, and evening long. What was even more wonderful, was leaving the next morning, looking at Zach, and realizing I was looking into the eyes of my husband. It’s kind of crazy-wonderful to think about how much has happened, changed, and evolved since that magical day a year ago. In these 365 (or 366) days since then we’ve learned a thing or to, and it seemed like the perfect time to pass these tidbits along.
Don’t Stop Dating Each Other
Ruts are easy to fall into. Make the effort to continue to flirt with one another. Make time for date night (even if it’s just a bottle of wine and no technology for the night). The quality time you spend together is something you will always cherish. It’s a reminder to not take your partner for granted. Make sure they know how beautiful they look in that new dress (or that pair of much loved yoga pants) Open the door for her. Let him know how good his cologne smells. It’s the little things that mean so much and truly go a long way.
Read The Five Languages of Love–It’s a Game Changer
We received this book as an engagement gift, and moment of honesty: it sat on our bookshelf for way too long. But as we got closer to the wedding we finally cracked that puppy open, and man, it truly is a game changer. Try to get past the cheesiness and it will really open your eyes to the love language your partner speaks, and teach you how to love them in a way that they’ll appreciate beyond words.
Love Each Other Gracefully–and Unconditionally
Speaking of ways to love each other, remember that your partners not perfect. And neither are you. On the hard days, remember to have patience with one another. Love each other through the tough moments–especially then. When you live together 24-7, there will be moments of frustration. Love each other even more in those moments. Sometimes (most of the time) things don’t go according to plan. Life is beautiful, and messy, and busy, and chaotically wonderful. Love each other with grace and patience in those moments the most. This is the most important relationship in your life, cherish every moment of it.
Be Each Other’s Cheerleader
You’re now each others #1 fans (officially). Don’t forget to remind your spouse that they’re doing a good job. That even through the tough days at work, or the days you seem to be treading water and getting nowhere, that they have a support system in you. Remind them that they’re #killinit. Even if they don’t think so, remind them that you’ll be strong for them when they’re not strong enough, you’ve always got their back.
Your Wedding Day Might Have Been The Best Day Yet–
But It’s Only the Beginning
Your wedding day will likely be one of the most incredible days of your life, and rightfully so. There’s really no other feeling in the world quite like it. But remember that you’re not getting married for a wedding. You’re getting married to build a marriage with the person you love most in this world. The days that follow will be the ones where you truly begin to make memories–because you’re building a life together. And there’s nothing more special in this crazy life we live than that.
Honest Sidebar: I know, and imagine, what this list will look like after 5, 10, 15 and 50 years of marriage, and I’m sure we’ll look back on this and laugh. But for now, we’re appreciating the incredible year we’ve had together, and can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives hold.
P.S.–Speaking of only the beginning, the one thing I would recommend to add to your wedding budget is room for a videographer. We didn’t do this, and it absolutely broke my heart as we got further into the planning process. Then, my magical unicorn friends, conspired together to purchase this as a massive group surprise wedding gift for us. It was the best, most thoughtful gift we have ever and will ever receive. It allows us to relive our wedding day again and again, in a way only film can capture.
When it’s all said and done, you will be grateful you splurged on a video over that extra piece of decor. I promise. If you happen to be in the Washington area, I couldn’t recommend the amazing duo of Riley & Paige at Articulate Film Co. more. They are amazingly kind, and beyond talented. But I’ll let their incredible work speak for itself, below.
To my sweet husband, every day we grow together and learn together is better than the last and my love for you continues to deepen every single day we’re able to share together in this life we’ve built together. I can’t wait to keep building with you.